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“The Trellis and the Vine”

I’m making my way through this excellent book. It is very thought provoking on the nature of ministry. Here is a quote from chapter one which explains what the ‘trellis’ and the ‘vine’ are. I have extra copies being shipped… if you think that you’d like one, please let me know.

The basic work of any Christian ministry is to preach the gospel of Jesus Christ in the power of God’s Spirit, and to see people converted, changed and grow to maturity in that gospel. That’s the work of planting, watering, fertilizing and tending the vine. However, just as some sort of framework is needed to help a vine grow, so Christian ministries also need some structure and support. It may not be much, but at the very least we need somewhere to meet, some Bibles to read from, and some basic structures of leadership within our group. All Christian churches, fellowships or ministries have some kind of trellis that gives shape and support to the work. As the ministry grows, the trellis also needs attention. Management, finances, infrastructure, organization, governance—these all become more important and more complex as the vine grows. In this sense, good trellis workers are invaluable, and all growing ministries need them.What’s the state of the trellis and the vine at your church?

Perhaps trellis work has taken over from vine work. There are committees, structures, programs, activities and fund-raising efforts, and many people put lots of time into keeping them all going, but the actual work of growing the vine falls to a very few. In fact, perhaps the only time real vine-growing work happens is in the regular Sunday service, and then only by the pastor as he preaches his sermon.

If this is your church, then there’s every chance the vine is looking a bit tired. The leaves are less green, the flowers are less profuse, and it has been some time since any new shoots have been seen. The pastor keeps working away manfully, feeling overworked, under-appreciated and a little discouraged that his faithful vine work each Sunday doesn’t seem to bear much fruit. In fact, he often feels he would like to do more to help and encourage others to be involved in vine work, the work of watering and planting and helping people to grow in Christ. But the sad truth is that most of the trellis work also seems to fall to him to organize—rosters, property and building issues, committees, finances, budgets, overseeing the church office, planning and running events. There’s just no time.

And that’s the thing about trellis work: it tends to take over from vine work. Perhaps it’s because trellis work is easier and less personally threatening. Vine work is personal and requires much prayer. It requires us to depend on God, and to open our mouths and speak God’s word in some way to another person.

The Trellis and the Vine, 8-9

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Ministering to Couples Struggling with Infertility…

The whole topic of infertility has been weighing heavy on my heart for a number of days now and this post will be very personal as Jen and I are struggling with this prospect.

Conservative statistics on the internet have the infertility rate at 20%. Even in my age group at church (20-35 year olds) there are a number of couples struggling with this possibility as well as some of my married friends back home in Australia. Though infertility is becoming more and more common in our day, little is done to minister to these couples at church.

So in what ways can people in the church encourage and minister to those affected by childlessness? Here are some of my thoughts…

1. Be in prayer for these couples. Encourage and minister to them by praying with them… be specific with your prayers and realize that God is sovereign even over infertility! Pray against the onset of bitterness in their hearts. Childlessness is disappointing for couples and it is easy for them to be embittered.

2. Following on from that… give couples who are struggling with infertility a voice in small groups etc. Make them feel comfortable to share what is on their hearts regarding this. Listen to them even if you can’t relate to what they are going through. Again Pray with them… ask them questions – be real with them! I can count with two fingers, the number of times someone with children has asked me about our struggles.

It is easy for these couples to get ‘left out’ especially at prayer time when it’s time to share. If these couples feel insignificant in the life of the group, they will stop attending and with that comes greater spiritual problems for that couple.

Finally, if you are talking about a parenting issue that a childless couple might not fully understand, please don’t fob them off in the conversation. A lot of the time they want to be involved in the conversation so that they can learn….

3. Get these couples connected with older, more spiritually mature couples in the church who have gone through the same struggle. To be honest, I have no idea who has in our church – no one talks about it!

4. Let infertile couples celebrate the gift of children with those who are pregnant. Many people who are expecting will keep the news of their pregnancy a secret from those who can’t have kids. And I know that a lot of the time the expecting couple means well and is trying to be sensitive but please don’t avoid any mention of children or pregnancy. Your awkwardness will only make the couple feel awkward in return. Most childless couples are happy and excited to share in the joy of their friends who are expecting.

That said, if the couple is becoming indignant towards people who are blessed with children – there is a deep rooted problem associated with idolatry. Children shouldn’t define who the couple are – It is God who defines. Again be fervent in prayer and be open with that couple about this… they might not like you poking at their idols but trust me, they will thank you later for it.

5. Don’t offer reasons or excuses for God. Telling a couple why God may not want them to have children is not only painful, it’s presumptuous. Also don’t assure the couple that “God will give them a child.” It might not be God’s will for that couple.

6. Please don’t try to make the infertile couple feel better by telling them they are “lucky” not to have to deal with the stresses of having children.

7. Include childless couples when celebrating events like ‘Mother’s Day’ and ‘Father’s Day.’

Have you any further thoughts on this topic? I know that a lot of this is from my perspective and I would like to add more dimensions to the discussion.

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Seven New Years’ Resolutions

Resolution #1 – To dedicate this year to drawing closer to God and have a solid devotional life. I have a good devotional life at present but my heart’s desire is to have an even better one. After enjoying reading through the Bible in 2009, I’m going to do it again this year. This time I’m following the ‘ESV Every Day in the World’ reading plan.

Resolution #2 – I refuse to waste my life on Facebook. I have recently realized that I spend too much time on Facebook… I could use the excuse that it keeps me up to date with my family, the youth etc – but really it’s a cop out for community.

To help with this, I installed the Firefox add-in called ‘LeechBlock’. It limits time spent on certain websites – I’m trying to cut it down to 40 minutes a day between home and work. This is the same for TV and computer time also.

Resolution #3 – Value community more!  Spending more time with people, building relationships and encouraging them in their walk.

Resolution #4 – Be fervent in prayer for the Youth, continue investing time through discipleship, and focus on outreach this year. It is my prayer to have the opportunity to witness deeper to the Jr. High’s at Westmount and to see them have that relationship with Christ.

Resolution #5 – I’m going to challenge myself to read a book a week in the next year. And this doesn’t mean that I’m buying more books! I have a ton of good books that I’m looking forward to re-reading in the next year. Here is my reading list….

Resolution #6 – Devote myself further to my wife and our children (when it happens). My greatest ministry calling is to my wife and family. They are my priority!

Resolution #7 – Have the Lord be my joy regardless of what happens in the next year!

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Self-Discovery and Awareness

So I did a little bit of self-discovery today while waiting at the lab for blood tests to get done. During the 2 hour wait I finished reading ‘Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership‘ as well as made a good start on ‘Strengths Finder 2.0‘. Now I don’t really read too many leadership books because frankly I think a lot of it is humanist bunk. That said, these 2 books (one ministry based, the other secular) gave me some good insight into my leadership styles, weaknesses and strengths. These books lead me to go further on my journey of self-discovery by doing a number of tests….

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